HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF – INSTRUCTIONS

What does love yourself mean?

Love yourself is careful and conscious care for your body, mind and soul. It must bring joy and satisfaction. Love yourself manifests itself in various spheres of life. To love yourself is to know yourself, understand your needs, follow your dreams, accept your different feelings, be in touch with yourself.

To love yourself is not to let anyone devalue yourself and your desires.

Why should we love ourselves?

Only a person who loves himself can give true love to another person. Otherwise, there will be a desire to be fulfilled at someone else’s expense, demanding continuous attention and care, thereby creating tension in the relationship. Such a desire creates a dependent relationship.

You should not see your happiness only in your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/children/friends. No one and nothing external can compensate for love yourself.

How does love yourself manifest itself?

• Give yourself the necessary attention, care and support. And in those cases when it is not possible to do it yourself, you can ask someone. But don’t demand, but rather ask! And when a person asks, he is ready both to get what he wants and to accept a refusal.
• Do your favorite thing. The one that a person considers useful for himself and others.
• To be happy in personal life. When you love yourself, you will not live or meet a person for whom you do not have true feelings, dooming yourself to torment.
• Have personal free time. A person who loves himself must have free time, which he can use at his discretion. In particular, just relax, doing nothing.
• Have a hobby, a hobby. An activity that you really like and allows you to be saturated with pleasant feelings.
• Take care of yourself. Be attentive to your physical and mental health. Engage in prevention, not only emergency treatment.
• Be able to say “no”. The lack of this quality often leads to the fact that a person does something against his will and desire, that is, going against himself.
• Thank yourself. A person who loves himself is not ashamed to express gratitude to himself. She thanks herself for all her successes and achievements, big and small, for every day she lives, and this only adds to her confidence and increases her self-esteem.
• Be yourself, even if it may look strange to someone. Better to be weird than comfortable.

How to develop love yourself?

Awareness of the problem of self-loathing is the first step on the right path.

To truly love yourself, you need to fully accept yourself with all the flaws and advantages. And also stop setting excessive demands and condemning yourself for small mistakes.

Sometimes it is difficult to come to such things on your own, because a person can be hindered by fears, attitudes, negative scenarios of the past. And then psychotherapy can help. In fact, lack of love yourself is one of the most frequent requests for therapy.